Are you secretly afraid of being independent?

Once upon a time, there lived a Princess who did nothing but sat there and sang of the day her Prince Charming would arrive in style and sweep her off her feet. Up till then, nothing went right for her. Her life sucked and her family, comprising of one stepmother and a couple of stepsisters (there might be more but she didn’t bother to count) made it their life mission to make her life miserable.

All this Princess ever wanted, was a man who could take care of everything and allow her to be a tai-tai. Sounds familiar? LOL. That’s probably coz such a thought had possibly crossed your mind at some point. Of course I won’t deny that I haven’t thought of that but the thing is I’ll probably get bored of sitting around and tai-tai-ing all day long. =x

Colette Dowling called this the Cinderella Complex in her book, The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence. In her book, Colette described how women tend to victimise themselves because they are secretly afraid of being independent and confronting this fear head-on. True, there are women who are very gung-ho and fiercely independent. But they might be secretly quivering inside for all we know. The moment they get a man, they immediately give up this fierce front and relegate themselves to the subordinate role of a wife. NOT that I’m saying wives are supposed to be subservient and all but traditionally, is that not what has been prescribed for the women?

This book was published back in 1981 so you might probably feel that such a concept is outdated and probably doesn’t apply to you. But in truth, there are still many educated women out there who harbour this secret desire to be taken care of and well-protected. This is probably linked to women being unable to step out of the comfort zone that had been bred into them since the Caveman Age. You know, when the women stayed at home to take care of the cave and kids while the hairy men went out to hunt.

If you’re a female reading this right now, did you ever have the secret desire to be taken care of by a man? It’s ok to admit you wanna to be taken care of by a man but sometimes, it helps to stand on your two pedicured feet too. =)

Otherwise, you’ll be asking “Who moved my cheese?” the next time a problem crops up.

Before I sign off, let me leave you with this rather amusing short from an anime called Panty and Stocking with Garterbelt. =x

Yes, I know it looks perverted and it might probably offend the very religious but watch it with a pinch of salt. Maybe a truckload full. =x

The $10,000 Dream Wedding

Weddings…ah…the very thought of it brings to mind the image of a blushing bride marrying the love of her life at a gorgeous venue, with bouquet in hand and perhaps a few doves flying over their heads. That is until the bills drop down upon the happily married couple like the splat of bird shit. =x

Okies, that wasn’t the most glamorous of descriptions but you get what I mean. Weddings in Singapore are expensive and overpriced to boot. There are always a million things to pay for and top up just to have that once-in-a-lifetime experience.

I’m all for a unique and unforgettable wedding myself. But not when it comes with an even more unforgettable price tag. Yes, I know people are willing to splurge on a good location, a beautiful wedding gown, a top-of-the-line photographer etc but really…I believe with a little research and shopping around, you can actually get what you want for a fraction of what you’ll usually pay. =D

I found this book that claims to reveal secrets to creating your dream wedding, all without breaking your piggy bank and going into debt after the wedding. Apparently you can spend under $10,000 and still get to have a great wedding! The book may be written for the American bride in mind but I think Singaporean brides can actually pick up a tip or two on money-saving tips from this book. It’s called “The $10,000 Dream Wedding“. It comes with a money-back guarantee anyways so if you bought and liked it, tell me all about it! =D

Exchange your books for a good cause!

Here’s a chance for you to recycle, reuse and reduce all in the name of the Green Spirit.

Book Exchange 2010

Give a book. Get a book. The infinite book exchange.

[Give A Book, Get A Book]

Give a book, get a book at the Book Exchange! Drop off your used books* at any Public Library from 10 to 23 April, 11.00am to 9.00pm and get a coupon for every book** accepted. Bring your coupon down to The Plaza, National Library Building, on 24 April to redeem for new reads.

Event details:
Date: Sat, 24 April 2010
Time: 8.30am to 6.00pm
Venue: The Plaza, National Library Building, 100 Victoria Street

*We accept children’s and adults’ fiction and non-fiction books (eg. Cookbooks, travel guides and romance novels) in any four official languages. Books in other languages will not be accepted. We also accept used library books bought from previous Library Book Sales. Textbooks, magazines and audio-visual materials are not accepted. Used books for exchange should be in relatively good physical condition.

**Each person can exchange up to a maximum of 30 used books.

For enquiries, please call NLB Helpdesk at 6332 3255 or email: helpdesk@nlb.gov.sg.

Funding clock, ticking down

Eva…a friend of mine recently made an astute observation about the nature of government aided initiatives in Singapore.

Now…why am I not surprised about the cancellation of many MDA initiatives? =.=

It’s not like we have lack of talents, you know. But looking at the shelves of our local bookstores sort of tells you otherwise. It’s as if Singaporeans can’t write anything else but ghost stories, emotales where NO ONE is ever happy or yawn-graphies where deep dark secrets are revealed.

I know for a fact that local writers are talented and struggling to make their mark in the world. E-books, twitter, Facebook, blogs, forking out hard-earned funds to self-publish…you name it, we’ve tried it. And just when writers and artists in Singapore thought they could break through with a scheme like First Time Writers & Illustrators Initiative, it stops.

It’s disappointing and frustrating to say the least. If you want a cultural hub to impress the rest of the world, doesn’t it make sense to start with us small fries? By making us compete with bigger companies, many a small creative dream is gonna get squashed at birth. I kid you not.

Well…I’m gonna do my part in promoting local writers as much as I can. To my faithful readers who still check back from time to time, spread the word as far as you possibly can…we Singaporean writers need all the help we can get. =)

One such title that I’m gonna introduce you is Happiness at the end of the world by Happy Smiley and Friends. They are a group of local writers who got together after joining Nanowrimo some years back.

This book is a collection of short stories that take place during a fictional end of the world. Now, we all know that end of world endings are typically tragic and miserable. BUT, Happy Smiley and Friends think otherwise. THEY see no reason why happy endings cannot go hand in hand with the end of the world! Hence this book was born.

Now they’re working on a second book! If you get the book, you can have a sneak preview at the end. =3

If you’re interested in finding out more about the brains behind this book, you can read the interview I did with one of the writers here as well a separate email interview with the publisher herself.

To buy the book, you can check out local bookstores like Popular or order straight from them so the money will go directly to them. =3

Enjoy!

In fact, you know what? I think I shall introduce a new local book like every week. =D

Finally done!

Okies…I’m finally done rearranging everything to my satisfaction. Turns out that I won’t be moving my fiction etc to another home after all. You can still read them on the site by simply going to YARNS.

The rest of the links on the header are self-explanatory so I don’t think you’ll have too much trouble navigating them.

I fully plan on making 2010 a more fruitful year than the last coz I realise that I’ve been too lazy and tired to boot. I’m gonna embark on a healthier lifestyle, write more, explore more places in Singapore (right after seriouslysarah gives the thumbs-up in her very own adventure quest) & generally accomplishing my list of to-do things. =D

I guess you can say it’s gonna be a busier year but at least I won’t be sitting on my fat bum and expanding it at the same time. Hurhur.

To my healthier end, I’ve gotten myself a pair of running shoes. For the first time in x years, I’ll be donning fully covered shoes to run. An activity I didn’t even like when I was still in school. =x

But oh wells, I’ll start off with a more moderate activity like fast walking first. As I become more used to actually moving for a healthier goal rather than getting myself from place to place, I’ll level up to slow jogging. Heh.

Also got myself a Buffy Stakes Edward t-shirt, thanks to seriouslysarah (who always seem to pop up with some awesome stuff from time to time…).

You can probably tell I'm not much of a Twilight fan. =x

It’s quite cool, right? You can get it at the J!NX website where there are loads of other cute tees like this too. Yes, the whole vampire-human love affair plot is getting a little tiresome these days. In fact, just the other day, my bf and I saw this particular book that quite literally made us LOAO (laughed our ass off).

A must-have handbook if you're aiming for a vampy (extra points if sparkly) lover.=x

the vampire is just not that into you” is written by Vlad Mezrich, undead dating specialist who tells it like it is. Offering invaluable answers, analysis pie charts and even quizzes, Vlad guides females in their quest for a sparkling pale-skinned drop dead gorgeous vamp. I totally recommend this book to any vampire lover wannabe. =x

Perhaps Bella might want a peek into this book. Hurhur.

You can get it at any Popular Bookstore (where we got our copy) for $15.94. OR you can get it on AMAZON and check out other similar titles! =x

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