Are you secretly afraid of being independent?

Once upon a time, there lived a Princess who did nothing but sat there and sang of the day her Prince Charming would arrive in style and sweep her off her feet. Up till then, nothing went right for her. Her life sucked and her family, comprising of one stepmother and a couple of stepsisters (there might be more but she didn’t bother to count) made it their life mission to make her life miserable.

All this Princess ever wanted, was a man who could take care of everything and allow her to be a tai-tai. Sounds familiar? LOL. That’s probably coz such a thought had possibly crossed your mind at some point. Of course I won’t deny that I haven’t thought of that but the thing is I’ll probably get bored of sitting around and tai-tai-ing all day long. =x

Colette Dowling called this the Cinderella Complex in her book, The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence. In her book, Colette described how women tend to victimise themselves because they are secretly afraid of being independent and confronting this fear head-on. True, there are women who are very gung-ho and fiercely independent. But they might be secretly quivering inside for all we know. The moment they get a man, they immediately give up this fierce front and relegate themselves to the subordinate role of a wife. NOT that I’m saying wives are supposed to be subservient and all but traditionally, is that not what has been prescribed for the women?

This book was published back in 1981 so you might probably feel that such a concept is outdated and probably doesn’t apply to you. But in truth, there are still many educated women out there who harbour this secret desire to be taken care of and well-protected. This is probably linked to women being unable to step out of the comfort zone that had been bred into them since the Caveman Age. You know, when the women stayed at home to take care of the cave and kids while the hairy men went out to hunt.

If you’re a female reading this right now, did you ever have the secret desire to be taken care of by a man? It’s ok to admit you wanna to be taken care of by a man but sometimes, it helps to stand on your two pedicured feet too. =)

Otherwise, you’ll be asking “Who moved my cheese?” the next time a problem crops up.

Before I sign off, let me leave you with this rather amusing short from an anime called Panty and Stocking with Garterbelt. =x

Yes, I know it looks perverted and it might probably offend the very religious but watch it with a pinch of salt. Maybe a truckload full. =x

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